You Cannot Successfully Apply for a New Job When:

1. You are unhappy or depressed.
So you have lost your job, so have lots of other people, now Get Over It !
There is so much good stuff out there waiting to happen, and there is no way you are even going to see it if people are enabling you to stay unhappy or depressed.  I don’t care if that is the way you feel, pretend. Yes, that’s right, I said PRETEND you are happy and behave your way to success.  Take stock of what you have around you, make a list of at least 10 things you are really grateful for in your life right now, and read that list every time you start to feel low. Make a new list each and every day.

2. You are stressed. Prepare a blank spiral notebook and a pen. Lie down, close your eyes and breathe. Concentrate on your breath, feel it coming out of your nose. Keep your eyes shut. Do this till you are aware there are no more thoughts in your head. If you fall asleep, you need to, congratulations ! Just concentrate on your breathing.  Count to ten slowly once your head is completely clear of thoughts. Remember SLOWLY count to ten. Pick up the pen put a date and time on the top of the page of your spiral bound notebook and then list all the things you have to do. One line per item. Keep writing till you have listed everything, whether it is immediate or for next week or next month.  Read your list. If you have written – go to the store, get a separate note pad and make a shopping list; next time write – make a shopping list instead of go to the store. If you wrote – find a job, write that at the bottom of your list, and breakdown items you need to do to accomplish this underneath, as type of sub set i.e. – write resume, get someone to write a resume for me etc.  Then, take stock of what you have around you, make a list of at least 10 things you are really grateful for in your life right now, and read that list every time you start to feel low. Make a new list each and every day.

3. You are a Pessimist. Imagining all the terrible things that will happen if you do not find another job, is not going to help you find that job. So, make a list all the very worst things that could possibly happen to you in your current situation. Number them. Take each one and write your way to your very worst nightmare. Spare nothing make it as bad as it could possibly get. I.e. I have no money, I will be thrown out of my house, I will be living on the street. I will have no food. I will die alone and starving.  Keep going – I will be buried in an unmarked grave.  Now go back and from the worst work your way up the list, filling in why this would not happen. I.e. I will be buried in an unmarked grave – too many people know who I am and so that just would not happen, at worst my grave would have my name on it etc.  Take stock of what you have around you, make a list of at least 10 things you are really grateful for in your life right now, and read that list every time you start to feel low. Make a new list each and every day.

4. You have a fear of proving yourself again. What if I can’t do the job ?  Make a list of all your friends and people who love you. Call them and ask them what are the 3 things they most like about you. Write them down with the name of the person. The make a list of people who have worked with you either on jobs, committees or community projects, and call and ask them if they could help you with a project you are working on by telling you 3 things you did well on projects you had worked on.  Once you have this feedback, sit down and write a note to each of the people you spoke to thanking them for their feedback, and letting them know 3 things you appreciate about them, and recalling a time or event you both enjoyed together. Take stock of what you have around you, make a list of at least 10 things you are really grateful for in your life right now, and read that list every time you start to feel low. Make a new list each and every day.

5. You have a fear of the unknown. Not sure what the new situation will be like, so not sure you will be able to handle it. Okay, let you imagination go into full gear. Make up every single possible scenerio that will make your situation worse than it already is.  Make sure you have at least 5 because when asked to do this, most people cannot get passed one or two.  Write these scenerios out to the most absurd level with the darkest thought you have. Now read them out loud, and continue – this would actually never happen because and explain with your rational mind that you are in fact a capable and worthy human being who would be able to turn these situations around even if any of them did start to eventuate.  Read this to someone you love and trust who you can kiss passionately after you have finished. Take stock of what you have around you, make a list of at least 10 things you are really grateful for in your life right now, and read that list every time you start to feel low. Make a new list each and every day.

Better yet, visit my web site below and find a new opportunity. It will keep you productive while looking for a job, provide you a whole new set of tools which you will find useful in any future endeavor, and introduce you to a whole new social network.

Lily Steiner – www.MyMultipleIncomeStreams.com

Lily@LilyWorldTravel.com

Lily is an entrepreneur and Founder of American Business Gateway. Lily specializes in out of the box thinking to improve revenues in businesses and is now also working with companies, individuals and corporate entrepreneurs.